Whatever you do in your daily experience, the most essential ingredient is joy. When you feel joy, you are at peace with what is around you, content in the experience you are having right now and not concerned about the future, or the past. It is vital to allow joy into each day's nutritional program. You say you have too many other things weighing on you. That is conditioning responding to your desire for joy and not the real, elemental and undefiled essence which you are. We trade our ability to be in a state of joy of loving companionability with all around us, at ease and in harmony, we trade this state of consciousness moment by moment, second by second as we learn from our elders what the state of being a grown-up looks like.