I've been listening lately to people who try to tell me the perfect match doesn't exist.
I beg to differ.
The perfect match not only exists, but ask anyone who has been partnered for many years and who is happy. This person will tell you the perfect match is what you are looking for.
What does not exist is a perfect human being. This is where I agree whole heartedly with my disillusioned friends. None of us are perfect and the perfect human being does not exist.
What am I saying?
The emphasis is on the word "match". If you know yourself and understand what it is that is MOST important to you you are much more likely to make a match which is perfect.
Likewise if your partner has a sense or understanding of what he/she is looking for, not in a general way but in the specific qualities, he/she is much more likely to be content and happy with the choice made.
Here's how it works. Once you understand that for example, you must have someone with a sense of humour, someone who likes to laugh and who is able to make you feel good, you know this is a top quality for you.
You must be very honest, however, and allow yourself to be fully human. For some of us, a partner who makes a lot of money, who is successful in terms of the world, is extremely important. If this is true for you, put it at the top of your list.
For others, the qualities of the heart come first:loyalty, kindness, humour, gentleness to name a few.
It doesn't matter which qualities you choose. There is no judgement in terms of better or worse, only an attempt to make your partnership lean towards the better most days.
This is more likely to happen when you choose a partner with the qualities which match and support your daily needs.