You are the most important person in your life.
That is, when you understand and spend time with yourself, when you genuinely see the positive traits you carry and are willing to acknowledge and work on the weaker traits, you are putting yourself where you need to be: in the center.
What most of us do is wait and wish and long for that "special" person who, we believe, will open up the world for us in a unique and loving way.
Well, the good news is the wait is over: that person is here! He or she is the one reading this text!
When you begin to see how fragile, unique and valuable your life is and you begin to live your life as though you and your life are fragile unique and important, you begin to find that it's true: the fabulous, unique and dynamic events, people and things which mean the most to you are at your fingertips.
When you take on your life, and your conscious understanding of your life as the most important focus, you begin a journey which leads to self-love.
Self-love is the ingredient which allows you to be loved by someone else, and to give love to someone else.
Without wholesome self-love you are prone to the many patterns of behavior you have seen in your parents, in the media, and in any other role models.
Wholesome self-love, love for yourself which includes asking tough questions such as what am I looking for in a partner? What am I willing to give?
What aspects of life are involved in my ideal partner? Do I work with this person? What qualities and characteristics am I really looking for?
That dance partner who sweeps you off your feet, that beautiful face you see at a group gathering, that elegant body which seems to be a magnet on your soul...these are false signals, if they are the only ones you look for.
Spend time first with yourself. Understand your own basic moral stand in life, and make a list of the important characteristics you need in a partner to make a lasting relationship last.
The time spent gaining a conscious handle on what it is you are looking for will mean you don't waste time looking for the wrong person.